Month: July 2025

In spring I went to Upstairs at the Tillingham. That was April, with an “r” in the month. I did a YouTube on the smallest scale that it is possible to do such things. But I was curious about this Michelin Green Star place. I had Oysters, Scallops and lamb. Spring food. Some service issues and it was pricey but largely it was a good evening. So, fuck it, I went back to see the summer menu.

It’s July. The menu is pretty much exactly the same. So now there’s no “r” in the month. Oysters and scallops likely gonna be frozen, probably the lamb as well. The morels I was so excited about with the lamb are no longer there so there has been some seasonal shift. Not much though. And the Pinot Gris I had last time is run out. “That’s a typo,” says the waitress, who is only on her third shift. It’s not. It’s an oversight.

Footfall isn’t high enough for me to really hold them down. Likely they haven’t used up all the spring lamb and being careful they are using what remains. They’ve used the morels so they’ve replaced them with garlic which was plentiful this year. I reckon if there was a train of hungry people they would have shifted the menu a few times, but it is too expensive here not to be a treat. I like my fine dining… Can’t really afford it but gonna try. And Tillingham is really about good old British English WINE from English Britain. And it’s okay, the wine. The Pinot Gris that is sold out is sold out for a reason as it is almost better than okay. And that’s a high benchmark for wine made in England. I’ve had Majorcan wines that are much much worse than okay. For an English white to be edging towards good is an impressive celebration of man made climate change mixed with opportunistic ingenuity.

I enjoyed a meal. Had some okay wine. Made cheap choices compared to last time. Left feeling largely disappointed about missed opportunities. I’m not gonna slag anything or anyone off, it’s still a great place to eat, and actually I think heavier footfall would stimulate better response. It’s at the bottom of a long old narrow road, it is a destination… I had a wonderful view and felt treated. Menu disappointed me and I’m not yet sold on British wine, but I had a little glass of orange wine and it was pudding but it wasn’t sickly pudding.

I’m back with the cats. Tomorrow we will have to have a tidy up. Lou’s birthday today but she wanted alone time, which I honour. She will get here in the morning, so the cats and I will have to buck our ideas up.

Oh it’s peaceful here.

Just up the road there’s a café where you can get a decent breakfast without getting skinned. Lime Wharf Café. I went there to start the day. Really good ingredients, well used. I don’t want to link it just as it is so good that I don’t want to encourage it to put the prices up… It is well attended, of course. Rowing people, making food for themselves and others. My first proper girlfriend ended up rowing for Balliol and left me for a woman. Good on her. I like rowing people.

Last night was a little restless, as my early bed meant I was rested when the storm came. About 3am I got out of bed and stood at the French window with the cats flanking me, watching the woods in storm. Nature can be noisy. Sheet lightning, no forked, so… nothing on fire but a huge amount of water and rain and noise. Here it is so quiet that I can record a self-tape outdoors. Suddenly the booming of an angry sky, the rushing of the water and I was glad of mankind’s ingenuity to keep me dry. I enjoyed being here in stormy emptiness for a while. The cats were mostly pretty chilled so I didn’t feel I needed to stay up for them. So I turned in again and slept until the light woke me.

Sure I’ve got Jempson’s fifteen minutes one way and Lime Wharf Café fifteen minutes the other. This is in the woods but barely. It’s enough though. I love being here as I feel totally cut off.

Rain all morning though so I downloaded Skyrim and started up again – I’ve never got very far in Skyrim. Too much to do and it’s too big. I’ll finally have a playthrough on my Steam Deck where I can’t be distracted with modding it. The sun came out at 3 so all games were abandoned in favour of cats and sunshine. These furry boys know me well now and they like the same things I do. Food, sun and nature. One or the other or both have been winding round my legs all afternoon as I’ve tried to balance my tan. There’s a path at the back of the house so occasionally a whippet wanders through and sees me and the cats. Mostly it is super peaceful.

Tomorrow will be much like today, a day of long banked peace. There are social things and I’m slightly at war with myself about them. I could drive up to London and back but 6 hours driving just really doesn’t appeal when I did that every day last week. I’m just going to relax here in the post storm woods with these delightful shadowcreatures. I might cook up something again. And no pressure to do anything. I can relax.

That was quite a pleasant day. I could’ve gone one of two ways when self tape auditions became the norm. Either I could have expressed my distaste by just turning them in, or I could have started to think of it as an arm of my craft. I went the latterway. I’ve tricked myself into liking them because they give me freedom. If they ask for too much I try and enjoy giving it to them. I got my friend’s gardener to hold the camera for a full length shot as requested. I drove off site and shot the scene set in a car in my car, cos he was leaf blowing and it mixed up the tape a bit. Commercial was sent just before ten and then onto Shakespeare which was due at 3pm.

You do need partners really to work with Shakey. It’s energy work. It’s a curious part in one of the great plays, in a pleasant part of the world. I’d likely drive up if it landed and find digs out of town so it’s a healthy time and not a booze soaked horrorshow. I shot the tape in the garden in blazing sunshine, moving location each scene. It was fun stitching it together and meant I got the best of the day’s heat. My iPad was playing the other voices, thanks to Scott, and it overheated so badly that I had to put it in the freezer twice. Loads of technical fuckery, one scene it is clear I’m cueing the other voices manually, but it feels like art, of a sort, crafting a little journey through some scenes for a bunch of strangers to make a decision likely based on my height or the shape of my eyebrow.

Now it’s done I feel strangely bereft. I’m sitting bollock naked in the evening sun while Rajah rolls round my feet. I just ate a fish and chips and had a shower and honestly I’m already considering bed and it’s not yet seven. The flying ants are upon us, early this year what with it being the last day of term. The school holidays are upon us too and that long period of endless summer we all remember from our childhood will begin officially tomorrow. And I’m out of immediate pressure to DO anything, so it’ll be the ants, the cats and the woods. I can’t wait to do nothing for a bit. It’s been a long time coming.

I’m back in the garden in the woods. The last of the light is fading. Bats’ll be out soon. For now it’s the birds calling in the night, and a few moths and mossies. The cats were pleased to see me. It’s 9pm and I was out at 10 this morning to drive to London. Just got back.

Parked up in Sloane Square as it’s free with my permit. Got the tube in to Waterloo and onto The Cut. Went to the barbers and had a wet shave at Making the Cut. He was particularly thorough this time and cut the head off two of my moles. Still they won’t be bleeding in the morning and that’s when I’m doing two tapes and why I had to lose the beard.

I drove to London to catch a workshop showing of a new musical that Lou made some costumes for. The designer collaborates with Lou frequently – I met her through him. It’s a major producer and it has the bones of what will undoubtedly be a big show in a year or so, either here or on Broadway. Today it was just an audience test to industry audience on the Young Vic stage which, even opened out is quite small for what they are making. I can already imagine how it will be with all guns blazing. It’s already very strong. I think it might be under wraps and I’m used to erring on the side of vague, but it’s a story I remember from early adulthood, and now is an excellent time for it to be retold. I really hope it flies. Amazing to see an R&D with such a budget. This is what is possible at the top of the industry.

Tomorrow morning I’ll be up early and then tomorrow is just gonna be about taping myself really. An advert, which should be fire and forget but THE MONEY THE MONEY. And a Shakespeare on stage. I’ve never taped for a Shakespeare on stage before. It will feel very unusual without other people, but here I am in the woods so I’ve had to ask Scott to record the other lines for me.

Pink clouds in the sky and there’s an owl going mad behind me. It is incredibly peaceful here. Last night my dreams were so clear. The dark is darker, the quiet is only broken by nature until the morning when the walkers come by the window with their dogs. Owls and songbirds. The movement of trees. Two happy cats. A buzz near your ear. The distant sound of something vast unfurling in the dark wood. The murmurs in the air on the edge of comprehension promising  power. The screams of the unworthy. Crickets. Wings. Sonar.

A tiny reminder of how insignificant we are in space and time.

That owl is still making loads of noise. I think it might be horny.

Seems like the jump start kit last night used the last of Lou’s battery. I was nervous anyway when she bought the car as she had been sitting for a while. He would take it out once a week, the old owner, but only to the shops, and it doesn’t take long for a car battery to dip below too low, and after a while it just stops taking charge. I have rarely had a car where I haven’t had to change the battery at least once.

I tried to use a jump kit. I might have spent an hour nose to nose with jump leads but the space in front of her was full and I couldn’t park in the road. So… we rang the AA and got Tony.

Tony got it started reasonably quickly and taught me a little about battery connectors in the process. Then we drove to a car park and got a new battery put in. “So long as you do 2k miles a year it’s guaranteed for 5 years,” he told us. “So long as you do 2k a year,” he reiterated, three or four times. He knows this car has sat for a month. Batteries die easy. If you have a car you rarely use, go use it now. Prevention is better than cure. A car is a machine that begs to be used.

Once there was a new battery, Lou drove us to her workshop and back and it was fine. She’s passed her test. Now it’s just psychological.

I drove to Hastings and it is weird how nervous I am when all I have to do is look after two very chilled cats. One of them hasn’t come home and there were some kids making a dirt bike video outside and until I see Carlos I’m nervous about where he is. He’s usually a homebody in my experience, but last time I was here it was cold and rainy. Maybe he’s braver in summer.

Here’s Rajah:

Carlos is a greedy fucker though. He’ll surely be back for food. Rajah is the more independent, which is why I’m surprised no Carlos. I fed him as soon as I arrived. He knows I’m good for it.

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Here he is. He just came in jumped on the bed and said “”Ew”. Good. First night assembly. I can stop worrying and go to sleep in the woods. Cats. Cats. Cats.

It’s been lovely to briefly be back home with Brian and Maddy, Boo and Misty and my familiar comfy things, but Bergman and I have places to be. I have other cats to talk affectionate gibberish with.

A brief stop to Lou first. Her little green car has been sitting in Brighton unused while she’s been finishing up in the big London. Now she’s finished she wants to start using her, but the battery has run down too low to ignite. We aren’t yet into reprogramme the radio territory, thankfully. I brought down a jump kit for her, or at least I thought I had. In actual fact I bought a great big external battery that you can plug in to the wall in your garage overnight to fully juice up the battery of a car you don’t use often enough. No good for us so we went back to Halfords to swap it and ended up with a jump-start kit. A hundred quid. It doubles as a huge great big festival phone charger. I want one for myself to keep in Bergman. If it holds its charge I’ll probably get one. It got Lou up and running again in a moment. Tomorrow she’s gonna take me for a spin in her little green car. A bit of confidence building so she can start to move things back and forth from her workshop when its pouring with rain.

Meanwhile just a bit of time to connect when both of us have just emerged from a busy patch. It’s her birthday coming up. I’ll be living in the woods again for a week from tomorrow, and Hastings isn’t so far away from her. We can meet halfway and go for lovely walks up hills together.

Right now though I’m sitting in a dark room with Tessy. I completely forgot about writing this until on the edge of sleep my internal alarm system jolted me up to do it. I think writing it at 4am last time has slightly jolted me out of my routine. But that’s a good thing. The problem with writing like this when I’m just about to go to sleep is that my brain is already half shut down. Maybe in the woods I’ll try to do some morning writing as I’ll be up to feed the wood cats and get the dead mice off the carpet.

It’s windy here. I think Tessy is glad of the company as she’s sitting right by my leg, but I’m gonna pull myself back into bed with Lou and shut down for the night.

Andy is probably totally harmless, but he’s picked tonight to set up his little home outside my flat between my car and Brian’s bike, with the van I’m worried about parked just round the corner.

I’m woken up from light sleep by his conversation with an American. They talk for a while, and I’m roused. The American is gently probing: “So you still haven’t answered my question, what are you doing here?” He’s doing it very well, being personable but just assessing if this is a benign person or if he’s likely to be breaking into cars etc. As I say I’m pretty much certain he’s benign but tonight I’m worried about the van so my brain is on high alert. It’s secure, of course, but this is the last hurdle and my head is gonna be on it.

So I put on some clothes and head down with the intention of putting my mind at rest. Andy is on to me immediately as I walk out of the door to my block. “Evening mate, is that your bike?” he asks me, of Brian’s bike. “No, but it belongs to a mate of mine.” “It needs new mumble mumbles. I could fix that.” It’s 2:30am on a Monday morning. I’m checking on the van so I don’t get pulled into a long conversation with Andy, for whom it is very natural to have long conversations with strangers. He’s got a load of poles, the means to make a shelter perhaps. He’s got a whiteboard. He’s got an easel. He also has a mobile phone and he’s having a beer. I don’t think he’s any threat to anything other than himself to be honest, but he’s erratic and drunk right in front of Bergman. This is London I suppose. “I’m gonna drive to work,” I tell him. And I get in Bergman and drive round the block, then park him next to my van just to see the state of things. It’s secure, couple of stoners on the bench over the river. A lady jogs past on her own which surprises me at this hour. It feels ok, but it’s a hot night and Andy brings a degree of uncertainty to events. I’m awake now. Went to bed at 9 so I’ve had 7 hours sleep already. I can check things and not ruin tomorrow.

I go for a little walk just to check he’s not trying to fix Brian’s bike, and he’s on the move again. “Fucking hell this bus stop is a long way away,” he says and I reckon that’s genuine, he’s heading with his stuff to get the 170 out Roehampton way with his haul of poles and wood. There’s even an old easel. He’s carrying it in shifts from where he was in the lamplight outside my window to where he’s going. He’s different, sure, but I think I was needlessly worrying. As was the American. Andy makes active conversation with anyone who will stop and be part of it. He’s part of the fabric of this city. He’s not a threat to my load, my car or Brian’s bike, I’m concluding. And he’s moving on.

I’m awake now though. It’s 3:37. I’m sitting on the bench where the stoners were, and feeling London gradually shift from night to morning. A light dust of rain. The lights in the park reflecting in the water. Albert Bridge still glowing. I’ll go back to sleep at 4 for an hour or so but I got swept up in the night time summer city. Now it’s started pouring so the van is safe.

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Addendum: Van was safe. Fully unloaded. I feel rested. Client paid.

Made it back. Immigration into this country the only issue all trip. Unsmiling ominous people, and they went through everything in the van and asked me a whole host of questions. I just hope they didn’t put their boots on the fucking Eames chair. We had to sit in the van while they went through it. Bunch of plates and glasses etc. That’s all. Loads of big men wasting our and their time while someone behind us probably smuggled guns onto the train. The other side they just ran us through a scanner.

It’s one thing to be professional, it’s another thing to be a dick about it. Those lads were largely on the dick side, but there’s me in my hat.

I’m so tired now though. That was a lot of ground covered in that van with the wheel the wrong way round, either cooking in an oven or blinded by the light.

I had a hot bath this evening and we ordered Dishoom and I felt full almost immediately but that black dahl is probably one of the nicest things on the planet but so filling and so rich. I think I’ll be asleep very very soon and it is just 8. My room smells of cat wee. Boo left me a present. Not my pillow though. I’m burning incense.

The van will unload tomorrow. Once again it’ll be traffic warden bingo. Once that’s done and it is all squared off I will have a huge weight off, but… the catastrophising part of me will be playing up until we have it all up in Karen’s flat and looking shipshape. And those dumb lads put their fucking boots all over our careful load. I’m livid. It’ll be fine. But right at the last minute. The French were fine. Sure maybe we had a load of drugs in there. But what happened to “innocent until proven guilty”?

Oof.

Bedtime.

Berlin did not want to let me go.

We left early under a cloud. 3 hours set to Hanover. Every fucking German driver wants to kill themselves.

It was absolutely shitting it down with rain, and I’m in a Luton van with the wheel on the wrong side, and these fucking idiots… I’ve never seen anything like it. Visibility is virtually nothing, grey skies, constant rain. But still these guys are slamming it in their Porsche at 200mph in the fast lane. One fucker wanged past us at about 10am and then twenty minutes later we all had to wait while the fire brigade cut him out. He was okayish, his Porsche was totalled. We were close to that fool so he only cost us 20 minutes, unlike the guy in an Audi who did EXACTLY the same thing but was less fortunate and caused a triple strike. We sat for an hour because of him, just totally stationery, thousands of cars held up while they cleared the debris in the rain. Why?

German drivers. Honestly as soon as we crossed the border into the Netherlands it stopped. German drivers suck.

Both crash causing vehicles were in the same position, across the fast lane with their front in the central reservation. Basically both vehicles went faster than they were safely capable of driving in rainy conditions without a spoiler, they hit a bit of water and lost the back end, no time to react at that speed, tried to turn into the skid but felt it overcompensating that way, panic oversteered the other way with however much braking they were capable of between managing the control loss, too little too late, skewed round and found themselves horizontal to the road with their front end buried in the central reservation and their right neck whiplashed to arseholes. Bang. None of them looked fatal but they all looked stupid. It felt like karma really. I know what it is because the exact thing happened to me when I was in the slow lane at 2am too fast aged about 29 and I lost the back end in heavy rain braking suddenly because I saw a gatso that had been put up to cover some daytime roadworks. I was still managing the skid when I triggered the fucking thing but thankfully was sideways for the photos so never got a letter – or maybe it was out of film, it was in a really egregious place, at the top of a downwards slope of open road. I was in the slow lane and no other cars or wouldn’t have been bombing it, and I managed to get back control. Learned a lesson. I don’t think they can do that these days with the temporary cameras?

Berlin feels weird. We had ordered our Uber last night and it arrived. I called to Rhys “Hey mate, it’s on this side,” and two German lads came at us shouting “Yasser yasser burkha burkha” and evidently wanting to start a fight based on their perception of our foreign-ness. I think in their infinite ignorance they mistook our English for Arabic. And Rhys and I both have dark eyes and skin – he’s Celtic and I’m Hispanic and honestly that whole west coast is Tír na nOg, But we were lucky that the Uber came when it did cos they were lathered and spoiling for a fight. They looked a bit disappointed we had a ride as we got driven away by a lovely Turk called Metin who might actually have warranted the rage of two workshy boys looking for a Friday fight. They have outsourced responsibility for their anger. It’s common. You have to look yourself square in the face to really know that only you are responsible for your own happiness.

I’m happy to be out of Germany, almost home, almost dropped off. This has been a remarkable adventure. But today was one of the hardest days of driving of my life and I’ve covered hundreds of thousands of miles in so many different vehicles. The rain, the ears, the precious cargo, and… German drivers.

Still, I made it to Antwerp.

Here I am in Berlin in this incredibly badly thought out Booking.com room in Pankow.

There were no sheets on my bed when I arrived, as it was booked for 2 so the cleaner only made up 2. There’s a thing in Germany where they have two single duvets on double beds, so when I messaged the host, she angrily pulled one duvet from the double bed and threw it up into this jungle single next door. I’m sleeping in top of an undersheet that has clearly been there for multiple guests. I’m giving Rhys the good bed tonight though as he supervised the loading. He has a peculiar OCD that balances my expedience very well. It was his day as lead as I know he will be slower on the load than me. He’s had the shit bed every other night. He supervised an excellent load and I sleep in his weird jungle thing.

Max joined us and lent a hand. He’s an actor I worked with on a Rosamund Pilcher TV movie maybe a decade ago. He’s 62 now and I think he was just coming to terms with not being the romantic lead when I met him.

I love working with actors. Yes, sure it is my world, but I swear to god you get a better quality of available person by having that network. Vocational people… and if they chose to they could do extremely well in fiscal jobby things. They choose not to. So they can come and help carry a sofa down stairs, or they can sell that sofa, or write a description of the sofa, or customise it into a vehicle, or fall asleep on it. Largely they’ll try their hand and not be fazed by the unknown. Cos the unknown is our home. “You’re a butcher.” *Learn butchery* “You’re a politician,” *Study people in office* We mimic and we learn. “You’re a removal man.”

We have done well. We will continue to do well. Who knows if we will make budget, accommodation is much more expensive than I anticipated. Tonight is the most expensive stay I’ve had so far and it has been the jankiest. €250 for a dodgy mess of a place. But in Berlin.

We went out briefly. We saw the town. Much was good. And now it is bedtime.